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As I was doing my devotion this morning, I ended up taking a look at the days of Elijah in light of Rom 11:2ff. Primarily I was interested in why all the prophets were being put to death. So as I took a look back at 1 Kings 16-21 to find out what this situation was all about. It turns out it was the result of King Ahab’s poor choice of a marriage to Jezebel. This marriage was in direct opposition to God instructions in Deut. 7:3-4,

“Furthermore, you shall not intermarry with them; you shall not give your daughters to their sons, nor shall you take their daughters for your sons. For they will turn your sons away from following Me to serve other gods; then the anger of the LORD will be kindled against you and He will quickly destroy you.”

I do not want anyone to think that Jezebel was the only evil person in this, I think Ahab’s choice of Jezebel simply was a reflection of the evil intentions of hisown heart. “Surely there was no one like Ahab who sold himself to do evil in the sight of the LORD, because Jezebel his wife incited him.” (1 Ki. 21:25). Ahab followed his wife in rebellion against the One True God and established Baal worship (16:31-32). Not only that but it was surely backed by this wicked king’s authority that “Jezebel destroyed the prophets of the Lord” (18:4).

Ahab himself seems to have been a pretty spineless individual. He appears to be among the people when they slay the prophets of Baal in 18:40, but when he returns to tell Jezebel what happened at the beginning of 19, he does not oppose her threat of Elijah’s life.

I could not help but think about the care that should be taken in pursuing marriage, especially as Christians. It is of the utmost importance that as you consider a potential spouse that he or she is devoted to the same God as you are. Please notice that I did not say that he or she should belong to the religion or profess the same faith, but that their life should reflect a devotion to the same God. The longer that I am exposed to “Christian” discussions and debates, the more aware I am that variations in the theology of some so called “Christians” amounts to a difference in dieties. Here are a couple of quick examples:

  • The God of “open theism” is different than the God of the Bible. The former is simply a God who has no control over your life and cannot be relied upon because he lacks control of the circumstances of your life, while the latter is completely in control of every situation and has intended it for the good of his people (even the times that we don’t understand what he is doing).
  • The God of Catholism is a different God than the God of the Bible. Catholicism establishes a system of human actions or works (called sacraments) by which people can receive ‘grace’. Biblical Christianity establishes that grace is received simply through faith, not through things that we do.
  • The God of Liberalism is different than the God of the Bible. The God of Liberalism is not concerned about righteous living or holiness. Liberalists are usually more concerned with curing the ills of a fall world than in being restored to a right standing in the eyes of a righteous God. Biblical Chrstianity demands holiness, because God is Holy, Holy, Holy. It demands righteous living, because God is a righteous God. Yet it recognizes that human righteousness is really unrighteousness in the eyes of a Holy God. Thus it demands a righteousness alien to the believer, the righteousness that can only be found in Jesus Christ.

So for those of you that are still single, don’t be so quick to think that just because someone professes the name of Christ that they believe the same things about Him that you do. Get to know people. Get to know what they really believe about their God. Is the God they believe in the same as yours? Are they following the same Lord as you? Do they submit to the same master? If they don’t keep looking, because more than likely “they will turn [you] away from following [the LORD] to serve other gods; then the anger of the LORD will be kindled against you and He will quickly destroy you.” (Deut. 7:4)